How often do normal people cry

Why some people cry so often

Is a person too maudlin if he cries a lot? There are many reasons for tears, both cultural and psychological. Constantly flowing or absent tears are rarely a problem.

When a person is born, they usually do one thing first: cry. In the course of life, however, the way you deal with tears changes.

While some people - such as tennis ace Roger Federer - are built close to the water, others hardly ever cry. Why is that so? And why do we even cry?

"Emotional crying has two functions: dealing with feelings and communicating with others," says Johanna Thünker, psychological psychotherapist. «Strong negative feelings need an outlet. That can be crying, but also the concrete solution to a problem. "

If you don't use either of these two valves, the build-up of emotions could lead to physical symptoms - nausea, stomach ache or headache, for example.

A question of age - and gender

Babies already use crying to communicate with caregivers: In the first two years of life, children cry on average for 30 to 120 minutes a day.

“However, the motivation behind it can change from the age of two,” says Professor Horst Helbig. He is the director of the Clinic for Ophthalmology at the University Hospital in Regensburg, Germany. "If babies still cry out of real needs in their first year of life, they can instrumentalize crying from the age of two."

Another change occurs around the age of 13: From then on, researchers observe gender-specific differences when crying. "According to psychological studies, women should often cry out of suppressed aggression, men out of empathy or through a loss," says Helbig. While women cry for about six minutes on average 30 to 64 times a year, men only cry about 6 to 17 times a year and only for two to four minutes.

“The reason for this has not yet been adequately researched,” says Helbig. “However, there are studies that show that testosterone inhibits tears. Conversely, crying is often a symptom of premenstrual syndrome. "

People from Mediterranean countries cry more

In addition, social factors would have a strong influence on crying. According to Thünker, whether someone is built close to water depends on their upbringing and cultural or social conventions: In our latitudes, for example, weeping tends to take place in private.

In other cultures, on the other hand, it is normal to cry, sob and complain loudly in public when bereavement occurs. There are studies that show that English, Swedes and Germans cry less than people from Mediterranean countries.



Attitudes towards crying have also changed significantly over the years: "In antiquity and during the storm and stress phase, crying was considered beautiful and genuine," explains Helbig. "Only through the idealization of reason was crying seen as a sign of uncontrollable emotions and thus devalued as weakness."

While strong emotions and crying were also taken for granted in earlier epochs for men, today it is seen more as irrational and weak.

Open-hearted or closed?

When it comes to the question of how easily a person cries, his personality also plays a role: “Basically there are emotional people and people who find it difficult to access their feelings. The former experience emotions more intensely and therefore cry more often, ”says Thünker.

In addition, it is crucial how introverted or extroverted a person is - how strong his need is to convey feelings outwards and share them with others.

And are there people who cry too quickly? Or too little? Especially in shock after a severe loss or depression, those affected sometimes want to cry but cannot. “It can be very painful. It can help to put yourself in the right mood emotionally through films or music, ”explains Thünker.

Conversely, it can also be a burden to people if they cry all the time. They could learn to regulate their emotions better and to calm themselves down. “Neither is wrong or wrong,” says Thünker. "It always depends on whether those affected suffer from it."

These are the twelve craziest plants in the world
These are the craziest plants in the world

Deadly poison: The miracle tree (Ricinus communis) with its fruits is considered to be the most poisonous plant on earth. The endosperm of the seeds is highly poisonous because it contains the toxic protein ricin. Ricin is one of the most potent naturally occurring toxins around. If left untreated, death occurs through circulatory failure about 48 hours after poisoning. The wonder tree is native to East and West Africa

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Big, bigger, biggest: the giant sequoia (Sequoiadendron giganteum) in the western United States is the most massive or voluminous known creature in the world. The evergreen tree can be up to 95 meters high and have a trunk diameter of 17 meters.

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Climbing parasite: With a diameter of over one meter, the giant rafflesia (Rafflesia amoldi) forms the largest single flower. However, the gigantic bloom of the climbing plant only exists for a few days, then the red organ, which smells of carrion, disintegrates. A pile of black slime remains.

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Blossom with heating: When the flowering time approaches, the titanium arum undergoes an amazing transformation: its gigantic inflorescence shoots up to ten centimeters a day. And to attract insects for fertilization, the reproductive organ gives off a carrion odor and heats up to 36 degrees Celsius.

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Queen of the Andes: The giant bromeliad (Puya raimondii) is the world's largest bromeliad, more than ten meters high. It also has one of the largest inflorescences of any plant and is an endangered species native to the Andes mountains of Peru and Bolivia.

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Quite old: The giant eucalyptus (Eucalyptus regnans) grows as an evergreen tree that can reach an age of around 400 years. In preferred locations, it can reach heights of 65 meters in 50 years. It is considered to be the tallest deciduous tree in the world, possibly even the tallest tree at all. A specimen felled in 1872 was 132 meters high.

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Royal strength: The giant water lily Victoria is probably one of the most impressive plants on the blue planet. With up to three meters, it has the largest blade diameter. Discovered in 1840 by the botanist Richard Schomburgh, it was named after Queen Victoria. Many botanical gardens subsequently built their own Victoria houses.

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Pinnate leaves: The raphia palm is mainly native to tropical Africa. With a length of up to 25 meters, their leaves are considered to be the largest in the plant kingdom. They are not only very large, but also pinnate and stay on the plant after they die.

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Heavy fruits: The jackfruit tree (Artocarpus heterophyllus) is native to India. If you disregard breeding successes such as giant pumpkins and the like, it gets the heaviest fruits. They can weigh more than 30 kilograms.

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Over 4000 years old: In the Patriarch Grove in the White Mountains of California there are 17 specimens of the long-lived pine (Pinus longaeva) that are over 4000 years old. A tree whose age was determined to be 4700 years by counting the annual rings in a small drill core bears the name «Methuselah». (Archive image)

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Almost 10,000 years old: Depending on the definition, there is a dispute about the oldest individual living being. But it is definitely a plant: a Norway spruce (Picea abies) in Sweden, the trunk of which is much younger, competes with the long-lived pine. It emerges from roots that are said to have existed for about 9600 years.

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Monkey face: Anyone who looks at Dracula simia is probably not surprised why it is nicknamed the monkey orchid. It doesn't take a lot of imagination to recognize the face of a primate. The plant grows at an altitude of 300 to 600 meters in Peru and Ecuador and smells of orange.

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Small but pretty: the rootless dwarf duckweed (Wolffia arrhiza) is considered to be the smallest flowering plant in general. Its flowers are invisible to the human eye. The plant body itself is a maximum of 1.5 millimeters long. And by the way: As an arum plant, it is very closely related to the titan arum.

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