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Depressed mother: How daughters suffer and what helps them

Dealing with emotional problems in parents often gives rise to certain skills in children that can be helpful in later life, even if they had to be developed through a difficult time in the family.

Daughters of (formerly) depressed mothers develop skills that are in high demand in most management positions. For example, you often show a high willingness to exert yourself, are resilient, like to help other people, are good listeners and have a keen sense for changes in the other person. They can spread optimism, are patient, can see and appreciate small advances in others, think about the community, like to create structures promptly and hardly allow themselves to be panicked by chaos.

The flip side of the coin, however, is that they tend to put their light under a bushel. You also often find it difficult to see your strengths as such, to be proud of them and to attach enough importance to your own actions or to make yourself heard where a rigid style prevails. Some also do not succeed sufficiently in distinguishing themselves well from other people or in having too high demands, advocating for their own needs or expressing an unpopular, albeit justified, opinion without a guilty conscience.

Because as little girls or adolescents they were used to keeping disappointment and stress away from people in their social structures, postponing needs for the sake of peace, not taking themselves more seriously than others and making a good face to bad game.

Behind all this lies the early acquired fear of asking too much of others, of being held responsible for a bad mood, or of being judged as selfish. Discarding this behavior where it is no longer important for survival - as it used to be - becomes an important task for daughters at work and when starting a family.