Is it worth committing suicide

Suicide / suicide

Suicides are a rare occurrence, but suicide attempts are not, and certainly not suicidal thoughts. However, most of the time this topic is not discussed. This article is intended to break the "taboo topic" and encourage people who have suicidal thoughts themselves, but also people who are worried about someone or who have lost someone through suicide.

 

 

Generally

What does suicide mean?

The word “suicide” comes from Latin and means “to kill yourself” - the conscious decision to end your own life.

Suicide or suicide?
Other terms such as suicide, suicide or suicide are also widespread, but should deliberately not be used. Because suicide is neither a non-criminal act (murder!) And it occurs only very rarely 'freely', with clear judgment or after careful consideration.

Differentiation from euthanasia
Basically, one can differentiate between a suicide and an assisted suicide (also called euthanasia). With euthanasia, a person who wishes to end their life and who in most cases is terminally ill is "helped" to die. This type of assisted suicide is exempt from punishment in Liechtenstein, unless it is carried out for selfish motives.

 

What is suicidal behavior?

This includes all actions and thoughts that are related to a suicide, such as talking about and implementing actions that are related to the end of one's life. Suicide itself is the ultimate but preventable act of suicidal behavior. There are different phases and actions in which an affected person suffers more and more emotionally and puts himself in increasing mortal danger, whereby each phase is a call for help that must be taken seriously, because one recognizes by certain actions (e.g. self-harming behavior). The five types of suicidal behavior can be here can be read.

There is more information on suicidal thoughts here.

 

Reasons for suicide or suicidal ideation

Thoughts of suicide arise when a person feels that the current situation in life is too stressful, they cannot cope with the current living conditions, cannot see a way out and they have lost hope of improvement. It is rarely just one thing, but the sum total of stressful events makes life difficult.

It is also important to distinguish between cause and trigger: the trigger is almost never the cause of a suicide, but only the last drop that brings the barrel to overflow. Long-term factors play a role in the causes, for example a mental illness, difficult family relationships, but also traumatic experiences. Triggers for a suicide, on the other hand, are current events: for example, if a parent or sibling dies, parents divorce, young people are separated from friends or a love relationship breaks up, there are problems at school or at work.

Specifically, the following "risk factors" / causes can lead to a suicide:

  • Acute stress disorder (due to conflicts or crises at home, with friends, at school, separation or due to the loss of a loved one)
  • Sexual orientation (people belonging to the LGBTQI + community have a higher suicide rate than heterosexual people)
  • (Cyber) bullying
  • spontaneous action / short-circuit actions (adolescents often do not act in the awareness that a suicide cannot be reversed)
  • Survivors of the deceased and / or suicides by relatives, friends or family in their own environment
  • Mental illnesses (such as depression, anxiety disorders, personality disorders, schizophrenia ...)
  • Victim of violence, mistreatment or sexual abuse
  • traumatic experiences
  • Existential fears due to loss of housing etc.
  • chronic pain (due to severe physical illness)
  • Dependencies and addictions (drugs, alcohol, ...)
  • Pressure to perform
  • Previous suicide attempts
  • Inability to work, retirement

Here you will find more reasons why people, especially young people, are concerned with suicidal ideation.

 

Stay healthy

So-called protective factors help to ensure that people who may have some or many of the above-mentioned risk factors in their life still do not commit suicide. These include:

  • a high level of self-confidence
  • stable relationships
  • a positive self-esteem
  • good problem-solving strategies
  • personal and professional perspectives
  • pronounced control over emotions and body
  • social skills (communication with others, getting help, talking about feelings, ...)
  • a positive outlook on life
  • realistic future planning (personal and professional perspectives)
  • religiousness
  • healthy lifestyle (regular exercise and sport, enough sleep and adequate nutrition)
  • mental and physical well-being

 

Prevention (prevention) starts with yourself!
In order to avoid stumbling into a seemingly insoluble crisis situation that leads to thoughts of suicide, it is important to be careful with yourself and your own strengths and abilities. It is not always easy to have a positive and healthy outlook on life. Knowing when your own limits have been reached in stressful situations and when it is better to get help. In this way you can master difficult situations well and emerge stronger from a crisis. Therefore:

  • Know and use your strengths and skills
  • Develop personality and independence (set yourself goals, be courageous, curious about yourself and the world and take advantage of opportunities that arise)
  • Conscious interaction in internet forums and social networks
  • Take your medication regularly (if you have been prescribed any)

There is more information on prevention here.

 

prejudices


 
“Anyone who talks about killing themselves doesn't do it anyway!”, “Yes, don't ask if someone wants to kill themselves!” Or “Only cowards kill themselves.” - these statements all have something in common: They are untrue and prejudices and can sometimes lead to a call for help being ignored or someone being encouraged to commit suicide. That is why it is important to know exactly what the signs are that indicate an impending suicide.

You can find a list of prejudices and myths about suicide here:

 

facts and figures

 

 

Help, I have suicidal thoughts myself

 

Do you often deal with the subject of death? Do your thoughts constantly revolve around the possibility of suicide? Do you find your situation hopeless? If you don't know what to do and everything is broken, the last resort might seem to be to kill yourself. Many people who thought so later say that they are happy to be alive. Your life will also look different again. There is a way to go on. Talk about your problems and get help! If you have thoughts about killing your life and looking for help, you can turn to contact points that specialize in dealing with crisis situations. Here you will meet people who listen to you, support you and for whom you are above all not a freak, psycho or strange owl, but simply a person in a particularly difficult life situation.


 
Are you having suicidal thoughts?
If thoughts of suicide keep catching up with you, then you should urgently seek help and get support so that you can get out of your black hole again. Remembering to commit suicide is depriving you of any opportunity to change your life.
Why do I think of suicide?
There are many reasons you can have thoughts of suicide. Especially as a teenager in puberty, the hormones go crazy and you find yourself in a permanent crisis without you seeing a specific reason for it. Perhaps there are also specific triggers for your suicidal thoughts, such as something that has hurt you emotionally, through the use of drugs and alcohol, or through the attempted or suicide of someone you know. However, if these thoughts bother you not only temporarily but permanently, or if you otherwise cannot cope with the whole situation, talk to someone you know and get professional help as soon as possible.
Do you often have thoughts of suicide?
Do not keep your thoughts of suicide to yourself. Give the people around you the chance to look with you for ways that you can find your way out of your crisis. More tips Is there ... here.
Suicidal intent? Three reasons to persevere
Do you think of suicide? We'll help you persevere. It is worth it .. You want to know why Then read the reasons for this through here. When you run out of strength and have no idea how to go on living; even if you don't know what else to say - TALK TO SOMEONE ABOUT IT. You can also contact us anonymously: With us, the helpline on 147 or another advice center. Where else you can find help, advice and contact points is explained below.
You're not alone
Almost all young people have already thought about what if they were no longer alive, if they killed themselves, if they committed suicide. Basically, every person can come into a situation, especially during puberty and early adulthood, where he or she imagines finding a solution for himself by suicide. So you are not alone with such thoughts, and certainly not crazy about them. You can look for outside help under Advice and contact points.
Get help!
If you are in a big crisis right now, if your thoughts of suicide press you more and more, if they don't let go of you, get help! Where you can find help, advice and contact points is explained below.
You tried to end your life recently
There are probably more people who have attempted suicide than you think. In numbers, it is estimated that 10-15% of people will attempt suicide at some point in their life. About 50% of people think of suicide or attempted suicide at some point in their life. Most suicidal crises are short-lived. With help, new suicidal crises often do not arise, or you learn to live with them without endangering yourself. Here you will find out how you can work on yourself and learn to look positively into the future.
You tried suicide a little longer ago
Your suicide attempt was a little longer ago and you are back on the right path in your life. As you are sure to experience in yourself, it is a constant challenge to have a positive and healthy outlook on life. Here you will find out how.
Are There Safe Suicide Methods?
The answer is no, there is no such thing as a safe method of suicide. Regardless of which method one chooses, there is always the risk that the attempt will fail and instead of death, lifelong damage or disability will be left behind. There is more on the subject here.
Self-test - am I at risk?
The signs of depression are not always easy to spot. With the self-test (“health questionnaire for patients” or “PHQ-9” for short) you have the opportunity to see whether there are any signs of depression. Please note that the results are only indicative and do not constitute a medical diagnosis. A conversation with a general practitioner or a specialist in mental illness is necessary for a reliable diagnosis. To the test

 

 

Help, I'm afraid for someone

Ilyas, Savannah, Ardit and Elea tell of the difficult time when they found out that a boyfriend or girlfriend no longer wanted to live. They talk about how insecure they were, how overwhelmed they felt, but how important it was that they acted in the end. Because even if you are afraid of doing something wrong, the only wrong thing would be to do nothing.
 

 

My girlfriend / boyfriend told me that he / she would like to kill himself / herself
If your boyfriend or girlfriend makes a suicide report, even has a specific plan and the resources to carry it out, take it very seriously. Try to stay calm, but act clearly and firmly, even if your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't want you to. You will find out how you can help him / her specifically now
here, here and here.
I think my boyfriend / girlfriend has suicidal thoughts
A suicidal person feels that they cannot stop the internal pain, have clear thoughts, or see no way out. She needs help to come to terms with her feelings again. Not only professionals, but we can all help ensure that a person at risk of suicide receives the professional help and human support they need. It is important that you trust your feelings now, take your boyfriend seriously and listen to him / her. You will find out how you can help him / her here.
How do I know if someone is serious?
A suicide usually does not happen without warning - in fact, 8/10 of those affected announce the suicide in advance. It is therefore important to spot the signs early on so that one can act. You will find out which signs this can be exactly
here.
 

What are warning signs
Suicide attempts do not always come as a complete surprise and suddenly - in fact, 8/10 of those affected announce the suicide in advance. When you see warning signs, you can react. It is important to talk to the person about it and get help. You can find out what warning signals there are here:
 

Get outside advice and help
How much and to what extent you can help yourself also depends on your own situation. People at risk of suicide find themselves in a borderline situation. This also creates feelings of fear and overwhelm in those close to you. These limits should be recognized and taken seriously. You can look for outside help under Advice and contact points.
How do I know that it is getting too much for me?
It is normal for friends and family members to quickly reach their limits when accompanying people with thoughts of suicide. It is not uncommon for you to plunge yourself into a crisis. It is important to know that you are not responsible for solving problems and the lives of others. You can only support someone in finding a solution for themselves. But this is only possible as long as you are feeling reasonably well yourself. That is why it is necessary that you listen to yourself and your body. Watch out for the following warning signs: sleep disorders, difficulty concentrating, constant tiredness and lack of energy, irritability, difficulty making decisions, constant depression, restlessness and anxiety, loss of appetite, listlessness, etc. If you recognize one or more of these warning signals over a long period of time, get yourself Outside help. You can look for outside help under Advice and contact points.

 

Help someone I know has committed suicide

 

I can't handle it
You are not alone. About one in four people knows someone who has committed suicide. It is also very important that you know that you could not prevent the tragic death. The decision to end their life is entirely up to the person concerned. She alone is responsible for her actions. You will find out what can help you now here. Where you can find help, advice and contact points is explained below.
I know someone who has lost someone to suicide
Feelings of shame, guilt or deep dismay can prevent the bereaved from getting help during this difficult time. The insecurity often prevents the people outside from giving the bereaved the necessary support and understanding. The following guide can show you how to help a bereaved person. To the guide. Where you can find help, advice and contact points is explained below.

 

Contact points and emergency contacts

It is important that you get help early on. Remember, you are not alone with your problems. Dare to talk to friends or someone you trust about your fears, worries and fears in order to find a solution together.Because two heads think better than one person alone. A person you trust can be someone from your school, family, your circle of friends, youth work or a stranger who seems likeable to you. We at aha always have an open ear for you.

Immediate help with acute problems

For acute psychological problems, for which you need immediate help, please contact:

Here you will find a list of emergency numbers, websites and advice centers where you can get help for yourself, your family members, your friends or acquaintances:

SELF-HELP GROUPS

In a self-help group people meet who have to cope with a similar problem and who want to do this with the help of those who are equally affected. Here you can find more information about the existing self-help groups in Liechtenstein.

 

Related Links

  • Website for young people

    feel-ok offers information on suicide especially for young people. It doesn't matter whether you, your friends or family are affected. Many important questions are answered here.

  • Please live

    Are you afraid that your boyfriend or girlfriend will harm themselves? Check out the videos for lots of tips on how you can help.

  • Talking can save - talk about suicidal thoughts

    Page with valuable tips and information for people who are themselves in a crisis and have suicidal thoughts, but also for those affected and people who are afraid for a loved one.

  • Video report

    Adolescents under pressure - in the clinic for child and adolescent psychiatry

  • Ask your questions

    At 147.ch you can ask your own questions about suicide, read questions and answers from others on the subject or find out more about suicide in general.

  • Help those affected

    Worried about your boyfriend / girlfriend, family member, or someone you know? Find out how other people have helped save someone from suicide.

  • friends for life

    Interesting articles and videos on suicide prevention and mental illness

  • Friends for Life e.V. YouTube channel

    The videos focus on mental health and education about depression and suicide. In this context, Friends for Life interview celebrities, speak to experts, present advisory services and report on events.

  • Experience report from a person affected

    A young woman, whom we have accompanied through a difficult phase in her life, has agreed to write down a few lines about her feelings at the time, the way out, supportive things, but also her feelings afterwards. She wants to encourage not to give up.

  • Conversations can save lives!

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